Toxicity can come as friends, family, and personal relationships. You may ask how I would know if a person is toxic. The answer is simple, if you are with people that leave you unhappy, unmotivated, mentally exhausted, and feeling negative about yourself then you are probably with a toxic person. 10 types of people:
1. The Gossip–“Great minds discuss ideas, average ones discuss events, & small minds discuss people”–Eleanor Roosevelt
2. The Temperamental – no control over their emotions & lash out
3. The Victim – tough to identify, initially empathize with their problems
4. The Self-Absorbed–no connection, you’ll feel alone, use you to build their self-esteem
5. The Envious – the grass is always greener somewhere else; dangerous people because they teach you to trivialize your own accomplishments
6. The Manipulator – suck time & energy out of your life, they always want something from you
7. The Dementor–impose their negativity & pessimism upon everyone they encounter –they can walk into a room & instantly suck the life out of it
8. The Twisted – out to hurt you, make you feel bad, or get something from you; otherwise, they have no interest in you, easy to spot
9. The Judgmental – look down on others, suppressing your passion and expression
10. The Arrogant – lower performers, more disagreeable, & more cognitive problems than the average person.
Through awareness, you can develop emotional distancing and boundaries and once you have identified a toxic person, you’ll find their behaviour more predictable and easier to understand. Stay strong, don’t step down, and make the harder decision of removing them from your life.
Energy vampires are people who — sometimes unintentionally — drain your emotional energy. They feed on your willingness to listen and care for them, leaving you exhausted and overwhelmed. They criticize, bully and intimidate.
You need to look at why you have attracted people like this into your life & what it is about YOU, that attracts these Toxic People.
Do not work at trying to FIX another person, your choice is what you do to create for yourself a happy, serene, peaceful life, full of loving and supportive people. Don’t be afraid of change and standing up for yourself- you are worth it.
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